As a twenty-something female living a quite boring and bookish life in the city, I was naturally excited to impart the information to some of my closest friends. The ideal answer would be this: it was beautiful, meaningful, hot, and mind-blowingly amazing. There were candles, silk sheets, and lots of lovely romantic words. We cried together after our mutual climax because the universe is magnificent but we are bound together by something sacred. Or some kind of answer that paints the first time as the best time EVER because, yay sex!
What to do When He/or She Isn’t a Virgin
What to do when He/She Isn't a Virgin
I saved my 'virginity' for marriage, and it worked out great — until it didn't.
A breakup with anyone can be very difficult. For young people, emotions can feel particularly intense and difficult to control, so a breakup can make it feel like you will never be happy again. All of this goes double if the person you've broken up with is the person you lost your virginity to. Your first time having sex with someone is a powerful moment in your life, and it can feel impossible to get over. The reality is, however, that most people today do not spend the rest of their lives with the person they lost their virginity to, and almost everyone does eventually manage to move on.
He was unsure whether or not he should move forward in a relationship with someone who had a sexual history. They discuss their relationship under the public spotlight including some of their personal hang-ups and hardships and the effects of premarital sexuality on their marriage. It seems that the topic of sexual history is one that continues to leave deep scars and painful wounds even within our modern generation where virginity may not always be the norm. There are times that we as humans get so fixated on the details that we fail to take in the big picture.